Trinity Elementary School Counseling Trinity Area School District Addresses Bullying




What is Bullying?


Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another person who has a hard time defending himself or herself.  Bullying can take place in many forms, such as hitting, verbal harassment, spreading false rumors, not letting someone be part of the group, and sending nasty messages on a cell phone or over the internet.




All students will follow these four anti-bullying rules:


  1. We will not bully others.
  2. We will try to help students who are bullied.
  3. We will try to include students who are left out.
  4. If we know that somebody is being bullied, we will tell an adult at school and an adult at home.



In the classroom:

  • The four anti-bullying rules will be taught in all classrooms.
  • Class meetings will be held where students talk about what bulling is.  Students will learn why bullying should not happen.  They will also learn to ask an adult for help if they see or experience bullying.
  • Teachers will use positive and negative consequences for following and not following the four anti-bullying rules.
  • Teachers will work to make the classroom a positive place for students.



What can I do if I think my child is being bullied?

  • Talk with your child.
  • Share your concerns with your child’s teacher.
  • Try to find out more about your child’s school life.



What else can I do if my child is being bullied?


  • Focus on your child.
  • Talk to your child’s teacher or principal.
  • Encourage your child to spend time with friendly students in his or her class.
  • Help your child meet new friends outside of school.
  • Teach your child safety strategies, such as how to seek help from an adult.
  • Make sure your home is a safe and loving place for your child.


 Here are some ways you can begin talking about bullying with your child/children:

·       I’m interested in your thoughts and feelings about bullying.  What does the word “bullying” mean to you?

·       Is your school doing special things to try to prevent bullying?  If so, tell me about    

         your school’s rules and programs against bullying.

·       Do you ever see students at your school being bullied by other students?  How does it

        make you feel?

·       What do you usually do when you see bullying going on?

·       Have you ever tried to help someone who was being bullied?  What happened?  What

        do you think you can do if it happens again?

·       Would you feel like a “tattletale” if you told an adult that someone was bullying?

·       Would you ever call another person names?  Do you think that is bullying?  Talk more

         about that.

·       Do you or your friends ever leave other students out of activities?  (Talk more about

         this type of bullying.)

·       What things do you think parents could/should do to help stop bullying?



What if my child isn’t involved in bullying?


Bullying affects everyone at school because it affects the entire school climate.  Your child is probably aware of bullying problems or may have seen bullying happen.  In that case, he or she is involved either by supporting the bullying or by not supporting it, either by taking action to stop it or by doing nothing about it.


Children who are not directly involved have a key role to play in stopping and preventing bullying.  It is for this reason the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program is a schoolwide program.  Your child will learn through discussions and role-plays at school how he or she can help prevent and stop bullying.



What can I do if my child is bullying others?


Here are some things you can do to help your child stop bullying others:


  • Make it clear to your child that you take bullying seriously and that bullying is not okay.
  • Develop clear rules within your family for your child’s behavior.  Praise your child for following the rules and use nonphysical and logical consequences when rules are broken.  A logical consequence for bullying behavior might be a loss of privileges for a while, such as using the phone to call friends, using email to talk with friends, and other activities your child enjoys.
  • Spend lots of time with your child and carefully supervise and monitor his or her activities.  Find out who your child’s friends are and how and where they spend their free time.
  • Build on your child’s talents by trying to get him or her involved in positive activities (such as clubs, music lessons, and nonviolent sports).  Be sure to watch his or her behavior in these places as well.
  • Share your concerns with your child’s teacher, counselor, and/or principal.  Work together to send a clear message to your child that his or her bullying must stop.
  • If you and your child need additional help, talk with a school counselor and/or mental health professional.



We need help and support from parents and other community members to fully address this problem because it occurs in a variety of settings.  So please help us to spread the message that being a bully is NOT cool.